There is nothing more than I wanted as a teenager than to be confident. I would freeze when it was time to get out of my comfort zone. One of the lowest moments I had was when I went to try-outs to be a flag girl. I had worked up the confidence to go but when it was time to perform I choked. I remember turning bright red, I could not remember a single step. At the time I didn’t realize that confidence came with self love not from being accepted into a team. For years I kept searching for my confidence within groups of people. I craved for people to validate my worth, I wanted their compliments, I wanted to be loved.
I didn’t realize that loving myself would more than suffice my need to feel validated. Once I began the journey of self love my confidence fueled my every move. At the age of 25 I joined my first soccer team… a sport I never played but I knew I could do because I had confidence in myself. This year I stopped hiding behind my brand and revealed who I am because the confidence I have. I stopped worrying about what people would think if they read my blog, looked at my business, etc.
Confidence will take so many forms in your life, none of which will be possible without self love.
Along with confidence comes your unique style. When your self love is high, you have a distinct style that you uniquely you. You’ve grown to know yourself, your tastes and your aesthetic. You simply know what you like and aren’t afraid to wear it. You own your unique style.
03) Friend & Family
When you love yourself, you have a deeper love for your friends and family. You acknowledge their imperfection and love them regardless. Having self love will also make it easier for you to forgive others who have hurt you. You realize that it only hurts you to hold a negative grudge inside, because you love & care about yourself, you learn to let go and forgive. You also learn when to let go of relationships that are harming you. It becomes easier to say, “no” because you value your happiness and well being.
Actions speak louder than words in any relationship. That is why when you love yourself you begin to align your behavior and actions to ensure they give you the most happiness. You spend time doing the things you love, hence becoming happier.
05) Drive & Motivation
When you love yourself, you start doing things because you know you deserve it. You start working on your health because you want the best for yourself. You develop a talent or a skill you never thought you had in you. You try new things. You unlock potentials. You get involved with people and at the same time get in touch with your inner self too. You know your unlimited potential to create value in the world. You know you can accomplish anything if you set your mind to it. You don’t settle for any less, because you know you are capable of so much more.
06) Easier Failures
Your kind to yourself even when you fail. You know that regardless of the outcome you’ll always have your own back. Just as you would treat a child or loved one you don’t trash yourself for failing but build yourself up with affirmations. You see every failure as an opportunity to grow.
When you love yourself practice gratitude regularly. You’re grateful for even the smallest of things. You become humbler and recognize that we own nothing. All is a gift and you become profoundly grateful. You have an appreciation for others and want to help them achieve their goals. You become humbler and recognize that you are not on earth to see how important you can become, but to see the difference you can make in the lives of others with the power of love.
08) Unbroken Promises
When love yourself you keep the promises you made to yourself. You honor your own words, whether that is to take a break, go on a holiday, go to a yoga class, eat more healthily, or go to bed early. You don’t let yourself down because you truly value yourself.
If you are reading this right now I believe that you have mustered every ounce of courage to finally teach yourself the essence of self love. I believe that self love is a journey and that there are things you can do every day to help you grow. I have developed a workbook that walks you through the exact steps I take to grow in self love on a daily basis.