Are you waiting for that special one to spark in front of you any moment? Surely someone to curl up next to at the end of a long day, who would take care of you when you got sick and listen to your stories every evening after work. We are humans, and we expect that form of special compassion.
Have you noticed sudden changes in you that you can’t believe it yourself? Buying those new jeans last week, you going for the cocktail party which you didn’t ever wanted to go. Don’t you think it’s all a little creepy? Love is just magical sometimes, it influences are thought process without us knowing.
So what’s the love factor you have in mind? That love was never going to be yours? How are you going to take life forward, your dreams, what’s going to happen to them?
So if you knew, with indisputable certainty, that love was never going to be yours, how would you live your life differently?
Your first feeling may be to say “Nothing.” After all, you’re a smart person. You have plans that don’t involve someone else’s influence. True, why should you depend on another when you have the spine to stand, is exactly what must be running on your thought process. But how are you planning to structure your life? Would it have a heavier focus on career? Or would you spend more time on exploring around the world and meeting different people? What have you planned with your relationships with friends and family? Certainly you would spend quality time with them, since you know that they have been with you and they will through your thick and thin.
Finding the perfect love is not really a life changer, it is another life that you will have to walk together with a lot of compromising’s. At the start you might think it is a total devastation to live alone but with time you will realize the level of freedom. You could save things like scaling up the corporate ladder,going back to university to finish your Bachelors etc. Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize. Because if we didn’t have to search for the love of our lives, we would finally be free to realize that we are allowed to be the loves of our own. That we can spend our lives developing ourselves, challenging ourselves, pampering ourselves and building ourselves up to be bigger, more capable people than we ever once hoped to become. We could become everything we’ve been searching for. We could construct our soul mates in ourselves.
Live your life the way you have dreamt of in being yourself. Love your life as life is too short to hate it. We simply have to start appreciating all that we bring to our own lives.