Despite commitment and communication in a marriage, infidelity can still occur. Asking yourself “What went wrong” or “What did I do wrong” are painful questions, but they can help get you to the answer you are looking for. The saying goes that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
While that’s not entirely true, it does truthfully state that men and women are different…very different. Of course, this isn’t a secret; but the problem is that we rarely realize men and women are so different. When things might be going well for you, things might not be for your husband. Here are some reasons why he might choose to be unfaithful.
He is looking for a friend
Men hope to find a woman who is emotionally intimate; a woman who listens, who understands, a woman who is not afraid to talk about anything. That woman does not react impulsively, she understands without judging and doesn’t reply with “I told you.” While this type of woman can exist in his wife, not having this level of understanding may provoke a man to find someone who can fulfill another aspect of his relationship.
He wants an independent woman
It seems silly, but husbands often seek a woman who is independent. Though they’ve made a commitment in marriage, it’s not really what they want. They are looking for a woman who doesn’t really revolve around them or your family.
He wants a happy woman
Men want to make women happy. If it seems like happiness is a hopeless situation in his own marriage, he might see to make another woman happy outside of his marriage. Though you both have been happy together in the past, your relationship isn’t where he’d like it to be right now. He’s seeking to make someone else happy because he doesn’t think he can do the same for you.
He hates tears
My personal conclusion is that some men cheat on their wives because they hate feeling guilty or responsible for our pain and suffering. It seems easier to choose to do something so wrong, so they no longer are responsible for making things all better again. It’s a selfish way out of a situation, but it does give an escape: an escape that usually results in divorce.